Weddings are joyful occasions and a cause for celebration. Virtually no couple says “I do” envisioning the end of the marriage. However, nearly half of all marriages in California and across the country will end in divorce. Contrary to popular belief, a divorce doesn’t have to be messy. Here are some tips for a more amicable split.
The fastest way to make a divorce messy is to play the blame game. Instead of pointing fingers and trying to place blame on the other party, try to come to an understanding that it’s time to move on. Moving on can be easier if both parties keep the end goal in mind. Paint a picture of how life with be post-divorce and this can help everyone get through the tough days.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to talk each other through the situation. If this is the case, consider a mediator to assist in getting through any roadblocks. Also, if there are children present, never bring them into the negotiations. Talk with the children about the situation and how life is going to be after the split, but never make them feel like they have to choose between parents. Make sure the children are comfortable with the arrangements and let them know that their parents will be there for them.
Divorce is one of life’s most stressful events, and cooperation may feel impossible. However, cooperation is crucial in order to get through the situation with less complications and less stress. Those in California who are contemplating divorce may want to contact a legal representative. A seasoned attorney can answer questions and provide much-needed guidance throughout this confusing process.